favorite appoach

My favorite approach to hard people is: “Thank you God for this wonderful person!  I love them, love them, love them!  And, help me to pour mercy over the part of them that is not yet right.”  Enough prayer this way (sometimes, A LOT is needed) helps me not take the part that hurts personally.  That helps me resolve my ambivalence: rather than having HALF a heart of mercy, God grants me a FULL heart.